Engaged before a Mission?

[Lady of Faith]

Not that this matters at all... but the couple from my orignal post... I failed to mention they got married 2 months after he got home... which has been almost a year now. Crazy stuff, huh? Anyway...

[Moondancer]

I've learned and grown a lot in the past year. This much I can tell you. Not to brag, but it's what I have seen in my own ability to become a people person. In order for you to really understand who you are, sometimes you have to see it through the eyes of others, but not to the point that it majorly influences you, in a negative way. Power, posture, belief, energy, and motivation. Any one of those, when radiated deep from within, in and outwardly direction, can help so many people, even yourself, understand what life is all about. Power to resist temptation. Posture in how you carry yourself. Belief of the gospel or what life experiences have taught you. Energy in being able to do a lot every day (I also believe part of being excited intertwines with energy) and or carry out life's tasks, and never getting discouraged with anything, but always being motivated to doing something good, something positive.

As humans, we tend to misunderstand at least one thing every day, on average. Sometimes this is due to a belief barrier, language barrier (even if we are all English speaking, it's sill possible to misunderstand what a person said, due to how they are using certain words), brain barrier (we don't always think alike), even a physical or emotional barrier can cause misunderstanding. It's all because of how we process information.

Because of that fact, it's helped me understand this next part: "The meaning of communication is the response we get... attention means nothing."

Of course, communication is a two way street. How you say it, and how someone takes it. I have no doubt, Suki, that despite your indifferences with your husband, at times, you guys are or try very hard to be supportive and understanding of each other, which is much better then a good portion of what the world does today. All 7 of those characteristics are doable, so long as you believe in it, and actually do it every day. Sometimes you may start of at a rocky start, but we have to start somewhere.

[whachamacallit]

Wow...no one has posted on here for a long time! Back to the original post...no, engaged before a mission is a bad idea. You will both change in the two years and you've just wasted two years of your life waiting for someone you don't even know anymore.

As to Moondancer's post, I agree. Being married isn't easy. Lol...there are a lot of hard parts and areas that you just have to be patient with yourself and your spouse. I have an awesome hubby that is very patient with me...thankgoodness...I need a lot of patience. But the point is we try to work on our communication and respect for each other and the such every day. It's a daily thing that I believe we will always be working on and never get 100% perfect at. That's just my two cents worth though.